Why You Should Avoid Comparisons When it Comes to your Sex Life

Without realizing it we might jump to comparisons when discussing our sex life. When you’re not satisfied you might utter phrases like “John and Sara do it five times a week’, or ‘Sally is so flexible they can do anything in bed’. It might seem harmless, but the way in which we talk about sex with and about our partners can really influence our relationships.

Comparing your sex life with those around you as well as with what the media is telling you about ‘healthy’ sexuality can be rather misleading. These comparisons make us:

• Create unrealistic expectations of our partners and their performance.

• Doubt our own abilities and skills

• Unnecessarily pressure ourselves to meet apparent social norms

• Create feelings of jealousy and dissatisfaction

• Discourage your partner from initiating or enjoying sex

The key to having a great sex life is being open and honest about all aspects with your partner. So much joy, sensuality, and love can be found in respecting and enjoying each other. Comparisons will only construe how you view sex and the expectations around it. Enjoy and celebrate your partner by having realistic expectations, praising their performance, boosting each others’ confidence, doing what works for you and not what is stated as ‘facts’ in the media.

These are just a few basic reasons why you shouldn’t compare your sex life to those of others. If you want to discuss ways in which you can eliminate comparisons from your life you can always schedule a session by following this link: www.lauramorse.org/schedule.