How to Deal with Conflict in Close Quarters

With Covid-19 still very much a reality in our current social climate, we need to change and adapt our relationship according to the new stressors and demands. There might be a miscommunication regarding responsibilities and expectations which could lead to an increase in conflict at home. Anxiety and uncertainty are running high and we might all be feeling extra vulnerable. 

Many individuals are in lockdown and don’t have the ‘luxury’ to blow off some steam with friends or leave the house to practice their favorite activities and hobbies. These restrictions have introduced new challenges in the home and might be causing problems in your relationship. Let’s take a look at how you can manage conflict in close quarters. 

Create a Safe Space

If it’s possible to have a specific room, or private space to dedicate to a discussion, do so. This could help limit the influence arguments would have on the rest of the family. Should you feel an argument coming on, suggest to your partner that you meet up in the demarcated space in a few minutes after you’ve calmed down. When entering this space, make sure that you’re calm and willing to listen as well as respond honestly. 

Practice Self-Care

Since many of us don’t have access to our usual coping skills or support structure, it’s important to boost your self-care during this time. Try to schedule alone time where you can journal to release your pent up thoughts and feelings, or listen to music that helps you deal with your emotions. If you live in an area where it’s safe to exercise outside, this could also be a great form of release. Exercise will get the blood flowing and boost your mood. 

Communicate Expectations

If you realize that you and your partner tend to have the same arguments over and over, it could be that you’re not communicating clearly. Are you expecting certain things from each other without having verbalized your needs? It could help to sit down and divide tasks and responsibilities to lessen the load. Many mothers are currently trying to homeschool their kids alongside all the other tasks and might need more help from their partners than before. 

Consider Online Therapy

Telehealth has been a saving grace to many during this time. Whether you’re already in therapy or seeking out a therapist for the first time - online sessions are now widely available. There is no shame in needing additional support during these uncertain times. A therapist will be able to help you adjust to the uncertainty and develop coping skills you can practice at home. Your therapist can also help you deal with distress tolerance, emotional regulation and interpersonal effectiveness to help you communicate your needs to those around you. 

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